Three levels of forgiveness

Purple Poppy in the rainThe three levels of forgiveness

 Level One.

As I was contemplating forgiveness this morning I was wondering what God would punish us for. He asks us to forgive 70 times 7 or in the Aramaic it is 70 times 77, would he ask us to do something he is not willing to do himself? I guess we need to define forgiveness. There are several ways we can look at it depending on where we are in our spiritual journey. In the beginning when first introduced to this concept I would go up to people who I felt had offended me in some way and tell them I had forgiven them of there transgressions against me. Well as I quickly found out such an approach was not met with much success. Many times this led to a rehashing of the situation and often I was blamed for the whole thing and often the other refused to forgive me. It didn’t take too many attempts with this approach that I learned not to do this any more. With some internal investigation I found I was coming from a place of superiority and now that I was a Christian I was better than these others. Of course with that attitude what else could I expect. But at the time I didn’t know any better. I was just learning about this whole forgiveness thing. It seemed like the right thing to do at the time. Also I was blaming others for my pain, I was still in the victim mentality. It is all their fault!!! If I forgive that person and they then come to see the error of their ways then they will change and I will be much happier. But the result was always the opposite of what I wanted. There was no reconciliation in fact things were made worse. I was left feeling that I was the problem not them. But I wasn’t ready to accept that yet even though I knew I had really messed things up. I was still blind to the fact and not willing to admit it was me. I needed to go to them and ask for their forgiveness and put myself at their mercy no matter what the outcome. I had it backward, which is very common for those of us raised in an upside down world system.